Heal yourself, before healing others

The question is, why should you even bother with healing yourself? Or, more precisely, how do you detect that you are broken in the first place?

Life is a set of experiences. Moreover, the way you react to these experiences will determine who you are. This, in turn, depends greatly on your mind. The problem is that if you don’t train your mind, you will keep acting or reacting according to the exact same patterns over and over again.

Human conditioning


Your mind interacts with the different electromagnetic fields that surround you. This is not only your aura, but also the energies of the people surrounding you, even the energies of your village and your country. From child onwards, you have been conditioned to think in a way, to act in a certain way, and to believe certain things over others. Your set of beliefs is what makes your world.

As your mind tries to process a thousand thoughts per blink of the eye, it is very clear that you simply cannot process so much data. Most of what you don’t consciously perceive ends up in your subconscious. This will create certain patterns which you will be using, throughout your life, to respond to the world.

But surprise! Life works completely independent from you. The only person responsible for creating a reality is yourself.

Now dig deep into your mind, and think about how you react to certain experiences. Anger? Fear? Anxiety? Pain? Depression? Ask yourself, in which situations do I always react in the same way? 

Emotions are a direct result of your thoughts. If the same emotion appears over an over again, when you are faced with a situation, then something is most likely broken. In fact, unless you are a highly enlightened yogi, then the chances are big that you require some maintenance once in a while. 😉

There is a direct chain of link between your broken parts and how this affects others. You will be giving your children your patterns and belief systems; in fact, some of them are already transmitted through your DNA. The more you work on yourself and the more you change, the greater you can be to others.

Lead by example


Fact is that healing others is best done by leading through example.

Why? Because as you change, the energies around you will change, and the toxic relationships in your life will gradually move away from you, and you will be attracting what you send out.

That’s the way it works. Even the best physicists couldn’t determine in scientific experiments why certain particles where attracted to each other… but if you compare a visual print of the universe and compare it against a map of your brain, you will be able to see that there are many visual similarities. Everything is energy, and exchange of energy.

So, if you really want to be able to help or heal others, it is important that the flow of your energies is flawless.

I can tell you from my own experience as a Kundalini Yoga teacher that most of my work throughout the year is on myself. Kundalini Yoga meditations are a fast track to help you figure out which parts of your body and which parts of your mind, are in need of “repair”.

A few weeks ago, I was in a teacher training on the subject of mind and meditation. The short version is that there are 9 points of intersections between your personal and the universal thought waves. We did nine 31 minutes meditations for each intersection, and by the end of each meditation, we were able to figure out which of these intersections were properly balanced, too weak or too strong. I can tell you that it is a very painful process to go through a meditation when the aspect is unbalanced!

If the facets are too weak or too strong, you will find that some “repair work” needs to be done on yourself, in order to treat this dysfunction. Unless you are able to do this work, you will act your entire life in the same way, and keep getting the same results out of each situation.

The good news is that all of us have the capacity for self-healing. Self-healing is a genuine process of the relationship between the physical and the infinite power of the soul.

Self-healing is about the flow of the soul


One of the many different holistic self-healing technologies at your disposal is the ancient tradition of Kundalini Yoga. More than yoga, it is also a lifestyle, yogic living, which focusses on three aspects of your life: healthy, happy, and holy (the 3H). Kundalini Yoga tells us that there is a yogic art and science to all aspects of human life.

From the perspective of Kundalini Yoga healing means to make whole:

“The art of healing, the art of ecstasy, the art of God-consciousness has millions of names in mystic terms. It has to do with rhythm and reality. When the body is in rhythm, there is ease. When the body, or any part of the body goes out of rhythm, there is dis-ease.”

– Yogi Bhajan

Yogi Bhajan studied and mastered this technical and spiritual knowledge in India, and brought this gift to the West. Over the years, he shared a lot of practical, traditional wisdom about how to stay healthy.  From food and herbs; to the science of Ayurveda; to the healing properties of gems; to the subtle healing power of Sat Nam Rasayan; all these traditions date back to ancient practices.

Kundalini Yoga gives you the techniques and awareness to stay healthy. You gain a strong immune system, vital glands, a strong nervous system, good circulation, and an awareness of the impact of your habits. This foundation gives you energy and lets you deal with the mental and spiritual facets of your life.

The key to the process of healing is the flow of your soul energy. From inside your being, energy is pouring into the other person; but this energy requires to be egoless.

Yogi Bhajan says that whether you are a medical doctor or a chiropractor or another type of healer, life has a challenge that you have to be egoless. You have to just become, without self, a healer at that moment, for that purpose. Healing is not there to serve your ego; it comes from a state of compassion, of compassionate meditation that the healing activity of God, within the being, flows.

At the end of the day, it’s about your soul. And your soul is about you, because you are your soul. If your soul is broken, not in flow with infinity, how do you want to help others heal theirs and find a way back to the flow of life?

“When people start serving the soul, which is everywhere and nowhere, they start becoming the soul; and the soul is a part of God.” (Yogi Bhajan)

– Sat Nam


Melanie Reid – HealthyLux Passionate Contributor

HealthyLux November theme – Before healing others, heal yourself

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